(a third space)

    more than another networking event.

    Small gatherings designed to turn strangers into familiar faces.

    No networking. No dating. Just good people, thoughtful conversation, and a reason to come back.

    i.

    8–12
    People around every table

    ii.

    92%
    Show up rate

    iii.

    One rule
    Leave work at the door
    ii

    a note on time

    You have less time.
    So the people
    matter more.

    We meet ourselves through others.

    1. the drift

      Somewhere between your last shared house and now, the infrastructure for friendship disappeared. You didn't stop being interesting. There was just nowhere left to simply be.

    2. the room

      Notworking is a third space. Small gatherings — dinner, a walk, drinks after work — where grown ups meet without an agenda.

    3. how it works

      We handle the guest list, the venue, the mix. You show up. Over time, the same faces become a circle you actually chose.

    4. Here for your company? We also design and run rooms for teams — Notworking for companies.

    The rules

    Simple enough to remember.
    Specific enough to matter.

    I

    No job talk

    Not 'what do you do' as an opener. You're here as a person. Conversation goes much further that way.

    II

    Small groups, always

    8 to 12 people. Every time. Small enough to remember every name. Big enough to find someone worth seeing again.

    III

    Show up as yourself

    Quiet is fine. Honest is better. The room is designed to make that easy.

    How we gather

    Every gathering has a shape. You choose what feels right.

    01

    Mind

    A lecture, a debate, a discussion that leaves you thinking on the way home. Gatherings built around ideas — philosophy, psychology, art, whatever's worth arguing about. Come curious. Leave challenged.

    02

    Body

    Fair warning: you will sweat. A run, a cold plunge, a morning that asks something of you physically. The shared discomfort is the point — it skips the small talk entirely.

    03

    Soul

    A long dinner, live music, a supper club in someone's kitchen. Gatherings that feed something deeper than hunger. No agenda. Just presence, good food, and the kind of conversation that doesn't end when the bill arrives.

    Gatherings are open to members only. Free to join. Events are ticketed — you cover what you eat and drink.

    Who joins

    People whose life moved,
    but their circle didn't.

    New to the city

    You relocated. Your social life didn't come with you. You want familiar faces — not a networking event.

    In transition

    New job, end of a relationship, a new chapter beginning. You want continuity while everything else shifts.

    Just ready

    Nothing dramatic happened. You're simply done with friendships built on convenience. You want people you actually chose.

    Join

    One form.
    We do the rest.

    1. 1Apply
    2. 2We match you
    3. 3You show up

    Membership is free. We use this to match you to the right gathering — not every gathering. A few questions, once.

    · Free to join|· Reviewed within a week|· Your answers stay private

    • · Events are ticketed. You cover what you eat and drink.
    • · Invitations matched to you, not sent to everyone.
    • · No job titles in the room.

    We read every application. By applying you agree to our privacy policy.

    Upcoming gatherings

    What's on.

    Members receive priority invitations. Some gatherings fill before they appear here.

    Live calendar

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    Calendar not loading? Open the Notworking gatherings calendar.

    Questions

    Asked often. Answered plainly.

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    The occasional gathering announcement, a partner offer here and there. Nothing you didn't ask for.

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